TRUE DOLLAR JOURNAL

So you might wonder why this appears on the True Dollar Journal. Well there is a section of bettering oneself at the TDJ even though I don't often write these types of works.



A relationship that will last a lifetime must have five components:

1. Us Against the World
2. Vision for the Future
3. Pedal to the Metal Loving
4. Alike Morals 
5. Alike Sex Drive

US AGAINST THE WORLD

The journey of life has many outsiders attacking you, whether its politicians and new taxes, job competitors at work, firms competing against the firm for whom you work, your neighbors. Competitors are everywhere.

If your mate attacks you while you're being attacked by others, your house will crumble. The outsiders will win. Your marriage will end.

The same holds true if you attack your mate. How can the two of you defeat all-comers if you attack each other in the midst of a grand war?

You must have steadfast loyalty to your mate and your mate must have the same for you. Nothing hurled from the outside can turn one of you against the other, no matter how salacious and possible. No matter what others say, you can not doubt your mate and your mate's loyalty to you for even one second nor can your mate doubt your loyalty, ever.

VISION FOR THE FUTURE

You must have big goals, written down and agreed upon between your mate and you. Without those goals, you will lose sight of why you're in a relationship and your mate will as well.

It doesn't matter what are your goals. Your mutual goal could be to raise four children through college. Your mutual could be to have a chain of profit-bearing franchises. Your mutual goal could be to travel the earth for five years without needing to work.

You should review your goals with frequency, perhaps every six months and certainly no longer than every year. You should take seriously your goal planning and goal reviews.

Perhaps you should go away once a year for a review session. Putting yourself in new surroundings while you review where you are on your path together and in what heading you should go will help you and your mate to focus.

Also, goals have deadlines. Without deadlines, goals are mere wishes, opium pipe dreams.

PEDAL TO THE METAL LOVING

Love is not about being loved. Love is about loving. Love is about action. If you and your mate always are loving each other, you will be in good stead. However, if either you or your mate lets up even a little bit for any stretch, the one who does so will begin to see the one still loving as a sap.

Prolonged, the one who has eased up will begin to resent the one still loving. Once that happens, destiny has been set. The relationship already has ended. It is only matter of time before the break up happens.

MORALS

So how do you pick your mate? If you don't have the same sense of right and wrong (politics, religion are good proxies), you will fail.

Your mate and yourself should agree on the big things such as these:

• Sanctity of life (abortion, death penalty)
• Indebtedness (splurging on consumption vs borrowing to invest)
• Charity vs Welfare (should anyone be good voluntarily or be forced into being good through taxation)
• Playing by rules vs Cheating to get what you desire
• Looking back 50 years from now, what would you like to have gotten from living (children, friends, awards from employers, helping strangers, bragging rights over peers)
• Substances (drugs, alcohol, overeating)
• God (Does God exist? Is Jesus his son? Are all religions the same?)

SEX DRIVE

If you don't have the same sex drive, you will fail, as the one with the higher drive will come to resent the other with the lower drive. Your sex drives will stand as a way to measure your loyalty and loving toward each other.

You must be open about your sexual needs.

KEEP THESE IN MIND